Friday, April 29, 2011

so many topics so little time

I have SO much to say today (between Royal Wedding, RHONYC last night...) but I'm veering away from what's happening in the world and selfishly talking about me. Meh it's my blog and I'll type about me if I want to.

I would have to say that I wasn't the nicest girl in high school. I wasn't the meanest, but I wasn't the nicest either. There are still people I feel bad about. I don't think (at least not to my knowledge) that I was down right mean to them, but I wasn't friendly either.

As an adult (if I can call myself that!) there have been numerous people that I've reconnected with that maybe I wasn't best friends with in high school and that feels good. Even if it's just the facebook friendship with the occasional "Oh your kids are adorable" or reading their status and going - yup we have a lot in common that I never realized.

That being said, I wasn't as bitchy as some might think either.

While we were in Michigan I hooked up with a group of friends that honestly we were always friendly in high school but not in a talk on the phone every night kind of way. But as adults we have a BLAST together...except one person.

On this trip my husband came with us and we had a couple of boys from school there too. My husband has met most of these people once or twice and a couple of them never. He has no clue as to what's going on, who's really great friends with who, blah blah blah.

I went outside with a couple of people during the evening (I tend to float away when drinking especially if led). I left hubs at the table. He was fine...until the one person opened her mouth. We're going to call her Sam for clarity although that's not her name.

Sam and I never truly hung out. I wasn't mean to her we just never had a ton in common although we had a few friends in common so we'd see each other occasionally. We never fought, never had any grudges that I know of nothing.

I am assuming that the group I went out with hangs out semi regularly when I'm not in MI, but let's be clear this was a school night and a definite "Heather is in town we're going out" kind of night. It was NOT a "let's go out, oh Heather is coming too".

Sam was rude the whole night (this happened last time I was home too same group but no hubs). She'll interrupt a story I'm telling to say "What's the point of this". That kind of rude. I'm sorry if I'm not always entertaining...but...

Anyhoo - point. While I was away from the table she turned to everyone left there (including hubs) and said "Heather is really loud". Hubs was like WHAT? but didn't actually say WHAT cause like I said, he had no idea what was going on and didn't want to be offensive or upset me (He is so sweet). Another girl said "Heather is just fun" (LOVE HER).

But, I have to ask, Why would you come out if you have such an issue with me? Why would you have the balls to say something in front of my hubs? Is she just that miserable?

On one hand I could care less, but it poses some questions for me. Not sure what the issues were, but maybe she can just stay home next time...which leads to my question...How do I get her to not come? One of the girls in the group babysits her kids during the day, one cuts her hair (the dutch mafia inter-tangling). How can I ask that she not get the invite?

People have issues and it's not just me:)

Thursday, April 28, 2011

Losing it

I feel fat today, mainly because of yesterday but I need to include some of last week in this feeling too.

I have promised myself no more dieting. I am sticking to that promise. But included in the promise to myself, I have promised no more binges. A pint of ice cream is ok every once in a while, but not ever night. A few jelly beans are alright, but do I need the whole bag kind of binging?


I grew up in a house with VERY few treats. We rarely had potato chips instead we were given pretzels. We almost never had candy or ice cream or dessert in general. I got out of that house and proceeded to go to every fast food restaurant in town, and I would top it off with Ice Cream for dinner.

The one time we did have treats was on vacation. On vacation my mom had candy in the car. On vacation we would get a bag of chips and a 12 pack of pop. On vacation we could go out for ice cream.

I was on vacation last week. And during that vacation I drove 24 hours (12 there 12 back) on a Friday during Lent. And seeing that I am now Catholic (converted a few years ago) I can not eat meat on Friday during lent. So that truly narrowed the choices of restaurants when eating food at the turnpike rest stops. So...I packed the car with snacks and junk.

Fine right? 2 days doesn't undo a lot.

Except it wasn't just 2 days.

One day we went out to a restaurant (it's easy when we are with my parents - we actually have more adults than kids! YEA). The restaurant had some good sandwiches (I had a gyro which I love), but the specialty of the house was sundae's. So of course I had to have one, on top of the gyro and fries. One day I made cinnamon rolls for everyone (home made from scratch - delicious if I do say so myself). Of course I had to try one. or well 2. One day we celebrated my parents birthday with out to lunch (steak and scallops thank you) then went home and had a giant slab of cake. One day we ordered take out and I got the most delicious grinder (can't get them that good in NJ) but the kicker is I have to have Mayo on my grinder (otherwise what is the point). It was yummy.

All of the vacation slips added up I am thinking.

Then yesterday, oh lord help me yesterday.

I gave up popcorn for lent. I have missed it. I took my son out for a date night and we met with some of his friends from his old preschool. We went to a hibachi grill for dinner (YUM!) Steak and Scallops again (YUM never gets old). We then went to the movies. Honestly? I was somewhat full from dinner BUT...I gave up popcorn for lent. And since I go to the movies maybe 3-4 times a year I ALWAYS get popcorn cause it's not an every week occurrence for me.

So now I've had a big dinner, a BIG thing of popcorn (please don't forget the butter) and a large Mountain Dew (umm another thing I've given up except for treat days...and if they have Fountain Dew I'm in - that's a treat not an every day thing anymore).

You could have rolled me out.

So here's the real reason behind this post. I am now scared of my scale.

The Easter Bunny has been to my house (although I am slowly sending more and more candy to work with my husband). But the bunny still did his damage. I have been on vacation. I have driven in my car long distance with no chance of a real meal. I have been out to eat tons. I have sat in a movie theater.

All of these are occasions that I have given myself to relax about the food. They are not things that all happen a lot in my life, so I'm ok with treating myself then.

The true problem is that they are NOT supposed to all happen within a two week period.

So right now I'm scared. I don't want to ruin a day with getting myself on the scale knowing in my head that it is going to be up, but not knowing how much up it is going to be.


Bought lots of lettuce at the store this week.

Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Sick of it

I am feeling bitchy today, which in itself is not a newsflash at all, but given that I don't actually have a specific reason it might be noteworthy.

I do not have pms.

I do not have out of control kids today.

I do not have to work.

I am not overtired.

I have ate lunch so I am not hungry.

I am not fighting with my husband.

Actually I am going out with my oldest son tonight to meet some of his friends for dinner and a movie. I should be happy!


I want to tear into people badly. I want to bitch at them like no other (don't be scared I probably won't do it but it is tempting).

I want to reply to every know it all person I know.

I want to write half of the Real Housewives and tell them they are nuts (cause I know that they would be upset to hear that from me).

I want to shout my frustrations from my roof.

Ever have these days?

Maybe it's the weather? It is definitely warming up here, but seriously the wind will not STOP!

I want to plant a garden this summer, but I'm afraid of the commitment. That's just plain sad isn't it?

I am having a messy day apparently. I just think I should probably stay somewhat quiet and hope that no one gets in my way cause I don't think I'd be very polite about it.

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

It's getting Royal out there

*I apologize right here and now for those that would like this to be a bitchy post. It is not. It is a sick love fest. I'm slightly embarrassed. Sorry. I will be bitchy tomorrow. Or maybe even later today:0)*

The Royal wedding is approaching at a fast rate. Some of you may expect me to be bitchy about it - but honestly? I'm so friggen excited I could cry.

When Diana got married I was 5 and my mom was NOT into this stuff. So I never knew it happened. When Fergie got married I was on vacation in DC and my dad said we aren't watching that. *sigh* When the youngest Windsor got married did they even have it televised? I have no idea but I wasn't really into them.

So now, Diana's son is getting married and I'm all in. I am waking up at 3 am (you didn't expect that this bitch would pay for a DVR did you?) making coffee and lying in bed watching it. I'm excited to say the least.

I can't wait.

I am the person that people called to check on the day Diana died. Yup I really am.

I am not so insane that I would have paid $50,000 for a dress she once wore, or have a room devoted to her and dolls and all that. But I did go see her dresses on display once upon a time. I have read a lot of books about her.

Now we are going to have a new princess. She's younger than me. Not sure if I like that. I'm wondering if I'm really going to like her. So far I do. She's adorable. I wonder what the Queen thinks.

Ok - enough gushing for me. I'm catching up on reality tv still, I should be back to my normal bitchy self tomorrow.

Anyone else watching?

Saturday, April 23, 2011


Holy cow. I'm back. whew. That was actually a long and somewhat fun (depends on the day) week. I visited (with 3 kids and a husband) my family in Michigan. true bitchy's my bitches of the week!

1. it rained everyday except 2. Of those 2 one day it snowed a few inches. I have pictures. I will post them. it was frocken ridiculous!

2. Family pictures. All I wanted to get was one family picture, and one picture of the boys. Umm...DUH I forgot to get the boys by themselves! I'm not dumb. I had arrived in MI at close to midnight on Friday night and then turned around and had family pictures done at 10 am on Saturday. (maybe I am dumb). There were 15 of us. We were moving quickly cause thing 3 was in a mood (to say the least). oh well. Mission accomplished on the family picture.

3. Cheap family members. *sigh* I am not extravagant in buying myself clothes, shoes or just about anything. I like my coupons, I like my sales. But when it comes to gift giving? I pretty much go as all out as I can. Not so with some of my family members. We split the pictures 3 ways as a gift for my mom and dad (birthday). We got a TON of sheets for all of us and a big "painted" one for my parents. The split bill? $78 per person. ummm CHEAP! Someone *ahem* wanted to go through and count the sheets and divide no. I had a coupon (aha!) that we got 8 sheets at $8 and then after that it was $2. so who cares if my brother got an extra sheet or if I did. it was $2 and not worth the hassle of a calculator.

4. Ungrateful people. Same cheap family member (are you seeing a bitter theme?). I brought a room full of baby clothes. I really did. I had saved last years baby clothes to sell or donate or whatever. then I got a new nephew. So I kept saving and packing up. minivan was full. My oldest could barely get his seat belt buckled cause there were bags of clothes next to him. some people don't know how to say thank you. guess that saves me from having to bring out more bags.

5. The weather. Did I mention that already?

6. Living so far away from some really awesome people. Hubs and I got to go out with some of my high school friends one night and we had SO much fun. Miss that kind of stuff!

7. Driving 12 hours in the rain. Did I mentioned that it rained while I was in Michigan? also rained 12 hours when I drove home!

8. Gas prices - what the hell is going on? Why are they allowed to yank our chain? To my knowledge no oil fields have dried up in the past month. No refinery's have closed. What the hell is the problem?

9. Grinders. I can't get a good grinder in NJ (which maybe ok considering my hiney size). I miss grinders. Yes, we have better cheese steaks, hoagies, and well...a lot of other things. But I love a grinder!

10. Knowing that I won't get to go home until December. meh. :)

I'll be back in full swing this week. Hoping to get caught up on my tv and then maybe we can discuss some crazier bitches than just me!

Monday, April 18, 2011

On Vacation

Sorry - didn't give a warning :) This bitch is on Michigan...with snow. Happy Spring Break:)

I'll be back soon with some very bitchy thoughts!

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Reality Tuedsay

Anyone out there watching Bethenny Ever After? I have to say I'm not religious about it (like I am with housewives) but I'm enjoying it.

She's gotten a lot of bad "press" in terms of the bloggers out there, but I have to disagree. I like it. I think it's cute and more real than most reality shows. I love the fact that it shows the newlyweds fighting. UMM duh. They met, got pregnant, got engaged, got married and now have a baby all within what? 2 years? On top of that Bethenny has a pretty big business going now and I know Jason works (just have no idea what he does).

I've read blogs (and blogs comments) that Bethenny needs to stop whining about her childhood blah blah blah. I don't know if the people writing this are parents or not...but I remember having my first son. Everything was overwhelming. Life was overwhelming. I felt my relationships rocked by it. Life was just not even close to being the same. And the bad part is - I had NO idea any of this was going to happen!

We had our first son 2 weeks after our first wedding anniversary. And we built an addition while I was pregnant. And then our first son came 4 weeks early. WE WERE NOT EVEN CLOSE TO PREPARED! That's the honest truth. And I AM a baby person. Babysat my way through high school and even after. LOVED being around kids and babies. I don't see Bethenny as having that before she had her own. Yes, friends had babies around her, but I don't feel like she spent days with them.

So I'm saying all of this in defense of her (and who knew that I felt so protective over her? odd). If she needs to revisit her past to get herself straightened out? Good for her. Life is overwhelming. If you need to understand your past to get yourself to move forward...isn't that a GOOD THING?

ok - end Bethenny Rant.

What did you guys think of the premiere of NYC Housewives?

Here's and "interview" with crazy Kelly:) it's funny

I have to say that Jill Zarin is one crazy bitch - she really is isn't she? Who keeps telling people (and the camera's) that you've changed and you're SO NICE now and then says "That Alex McCord is such a fucking bitch" tee hee - her excuse on Andy Cohen's talk show that night? is that she didn't say it to those women, she said it to producers...more or less that she wasn't going to get caught on camera saying it. That was her excuse. That she wouldn't get caught.'s a little article about Jill and her new look (did you see it? cause OMG wow on What what happens live? she looked like a complete doofus) She does appear to have gotten freshened up a bit...or a lot.:)

As for the rest of it, watching Luann makes me uncomfortable. Truly. She sceeves me I guess. I like Alex most of the time and actually I like Ramona too. Ramona is catching hell for being so horrible in the interviews...but come on. If you have an interview with Ramona - 1 you should know who you are interviewing with...and there is plenty of crazy Ramona footage out there and 2 - she's somewhat right...if this is what an interview with her is like imagine working for her. So, why would she pretend to be all sweet and nice and warm and fuzzy? nah - you go ahead Ramona.

Not sure if I like the new girl or not. Jury is still out.

Anyone watching the OC Housewives? I work on Sundays so I don't get to see every episode of them either right now.

anyhoo - along with my reality obsession I have championed a blog obsession...have you guys ever read Lynn in Chicago? funny lady who covers most reality shows;)

What's on tonight?

Monday, April 11, 2011


I am constantly thinking in my head of what I can blog about the next day. I try to keep the topics varied so I don't bore anyone including myself. I have tried to not make this a strict mommy blog talking only about my kids (those are fine but not what I'm trying to write).

I sometimes dip into politics, I love talking about reality tv, I will comment about mommy life, I like talking about weight loss and listening for ideas, and sometimes my kids do get into here.

Thinking of a topic for today I was somewhat stumped. I thought maybe I'd do one on the baking that I've done recently (outdid myself this week-end with a huge layer cake in the colors of the rainbow *Pats self on back*) but meh. It didn't feel so exciting.

Then I got an idea that pointed out to me in no uncertain terms that I have become super boring and old. Want to know what it was?

I was considering writing about the cleaning I've been doing and how I have discovered the joys of cleaning with vinegar and baking soda through out the house.

Yes you read that correctly. I was truly going to come here and post about vinegar and baking soda.

What the hell happened to me? I was KNOWN for being a rock star. I have proudly drank many men under the table and walked out without stumbling once. I am known for telling crazy stories and hanging out WAY to late. Hell I've even been known to go on a ghost hunt or two with camera's to catch the evidence!

Now I apparently think I should be known for cleaning? *which is partly hysterical considering I don't do as much of it as I should.* I don't mind being known for baking things *cause I consider that a challenge worth of pride*, but seriously baking soda and vinegar?

I used to drive a convertible. When I was living in MI I bought a Sebring. I was smoking hot. I had lost weight, looked awesome (if I do say so myself), and drove with my top down when ever possible. In MI I would get looks everywhere I went. When I moved to NJ I learned that no matter how much fun a Chrysler convert. is not as awesome as a Mercedes. But...I still had fun.

When the Sebring died it's LONG, EXPENSIVE and PAINFUL death, I bought a little Jetta. I didn't mind. She was so cute. And she was a stick, so she was a fun little car to drive.

Then it happened. I bought a minivan. People don't look at me like I'm cool. They look at me like I'm a mom. When I'm driving without kids I have the windows down and Eminem blaring. I don't get looks like "oh look at that hottie listening to some awesome music" I get the "why the hell is that old lady listening to Eminem?"

*banging head on my keyboard*

I have done it. I'm old and boring. It's horrible. And what's even more horrible is that I JUST REALIZED IT. How long have I been hanging out and thinking I was cool and well...not?

Sunday, April 10, 2011

I'm running out of time!

I leave for my big Michigan journey in exactly 5 days. AUGH.

In that time I need to catch up the laundry (they were flushing the lines on my island during the past week...which can sometimes turn the water brown that day - so I did almost no laundry cause I didn't want to deal with getting the brown water marks out). Catching up laundry of 2 adults and 3 kids? 3 little kids that go through what seems like an abnormal amount of clothes? Not so easy.

I need to pack 4 of us. My hubs is a great packer and does his own. I need to pack for a family picture, a baptism (new nephew) and for I don't know what kind of weather. *sigh*

I need to organize my car, but first I should try cleaning it. My car is a disaster. I mean disaster. So I need to vacuum, throw away, blah blah blah. Then I need to get it ready for the trip. Which entails finding all the dvd's and putting them in the right cases:)

I need to pack the fun bag and food bag. Fun bag - dvd's with easy access, Leapster, Mobi go, maybe coloring? not sure.

Food bag. *sigh* this is where it gets complicated. We are driving out on Friday. And it's Lent. *sigh* I may see if my husband will let us cheat and eat meat. No one besides me likes Tuna or Egg Salad. Eating at the rest stops will only have meat to my knowledge (maybe a fish sandwich...but yuck). I have learned to pack abnormal amounts of food and drinks for the kids though. They are REALLY good in the car if they are fed and not thirsty. Plus, well, I don't get them fully out of the car a lot. It takes 3 times as long and they are ALWAYS cranky in rest it doesn't seem to "help" them. and drink...have to get thinking about what I can bring.

I want (although this isn't a true "need") to have my house in somewhat decent order when we leave. It's SO nice coming home to a somewhat decently clean house. So I'm working on that.

I also am taking out an obscene amount of clothes for new nephew. I have had 3 boys and now it's time to pay it forward with my hand me downs. I have bags and bags and bags - not sure if they will all fit in the mini-van or not but I'm going to try.

On top of all of the real things that I actually need to comes the bitchy. I need to get over myself. I have had some family issues and I need to just drop it. I still think I'm in the right, and I'm tired of having my feelings hurt, the interest of having a good trip and a nice time I need to zip it. In my head especially.

You know how when you're mad or "done" with someone EVERYTHING they do can be ripped apart? yup. I'm there right now with my sister. Huge long dramatic story, but...I need to figure out how to stop getting my feelings hurt and ALSO need to learn to ignore. This will be the hardest part of my week:) I can pack (I'm getting pretty awesome at it) but...this will be my challenge.

Friday, April 8, 2011

I'm a little late

It's really to late to make new years resolutions given that it's well...April. And my birthday isn't THAT far away to make a list of things to do before I turn *gulp* 35. So I'm going to make a list of things that I would like have happen before then end of 2012. It's neither a bday list or a new years resolution. I'm calling it the 2011 bucket list:)

I don't know about you, but I get inspired reading other people list. I do a lot of "oh yeah - I should TOTALLY do that". Stuff like that. So I hope that you can find some sort of inspiration today from me (bitchy or otherwise) and if not can find humor in my goals (I know I do).

1. Lose 40 more pounds. *I have more to lose than 40, but 40 seems like something that I actually may be able to accomplish this year*

2. Buy "real size" dress for my birthday!

3. Do the 30 day shred Level 3 *I'm barely doing level 1 at this point*

4. Have a clean garage *My garage is huge. I store a LOT of crapolla in it. It's a disaster right now. I think I need a big old dumpster and just pitch all the bs out*

5. Get middle son potty trained *he'll be 3 in June*

6. Pay off the mini-van *rather ambitious but I'm hoping that this summer really pays off at work*

7. Do the water park at the boardwalk *Oldest son is somewhat of a daredevil and LOVES it*

8. Get family portrait done *Ha ha ha - have an appt for next week while we are in Michigan*

9. Use my day spa gift cert that I've had for 1.5 years now

10. Be nice for one whole entire day *maybe this will have to be a day when I don't have kids around me*

11. Take each kid out separately with hubs

12. Take everyone to the Aquarium

13. Look into possible office work from home *My old job in construction could have 95% been done at my house. I'm kind of thinking I should get busy and try to score some similar work with a company that would be willing to hire me from my house*

14. Do the beach *Despite where I live, I am not a beach lover. It's sandy there. On top of that I have 3 young boys, 2 I'm sure that will head straight for the ocean, 1 that will avoid it. 1 might eat sand. AND our beach is LONG...Like the fishing pier doesn't reach the water long. it's ridiculous. So it is quite an adventure to get down to the water so...we'll see about this one*

15. Eat at Jen Carroll's restaurant from Top Chef *It's really Eric Ripert's Restaurant 10 Arts which just heightens my need to eat there*

16. Go gambling. *I used to get to Atlantic City a few times a year, now I'm lucky for one...but I do love it so*

17. Buy real shoes, not for work, not flip flops but actual shoes *would be fun for me. Besides work shoes and flip flops I think the last pair of shoes I bought for myself was in August of 2009 for my sister's wedding. Before that? I couldn't even tell you. and NO I'm not exaggerating at all*

18. Clean out one of our attics *this goes right along with #4. My MIL lived with us for years, which is a completely separate story that I might share one day. All her shit is still in Attic #1 (we have 2). Now...She is alive, well to a point (in her 80's), and still has all her crap stored here even though she doesn't live here. I could actually use that space for something...but no. I mean it has my FIL's old walker. He died in 1997. That's how bad it is up there. Once again - must have dumpster cause it's all getting trashed which will make her mad...I'm not super concerned about it.*

19. Make it through the holidays and family functions without yelling at anyone *this is actually going to be a goal that CAN'T be crossed off until the end of the year...and it might be my toughest*

20. Plan a vacation for 2012 *even if it's just a week-end away somewhere*

ok so that's it. So far. I reserve the right to add to this list whenever I feel like it. And I reserve the right to use long lengthy wordy blogs to update you on the status of all of them:)

Thursday, April 7, 2011

Extreme Couponing on TLC

So you all know that I'm a reality show freak. I watch them. I think that I watch almost all reality and no "real" shows. And most of you know that I'm a crazy coupon lady. I love getting a deal. I high five myself and squeal with delight. I try to tell my husband the excitement of a good deal - but he really gets bored listening to my triumphs at the store.

So when I heard that there was a new series on TLC about couponing I got excited. Finally a show I can get into and relate to.

Ummm NO. Get serious. These people represent the average crazy couponer as much as the Real Housewives represent real housewives. Don't get me wrong. I'll tune in every week, but only to rip them to shreds. These people are ridiculous.

So last night we watched a woman buy 77 friggen bottles of mustard. Who the hell uses 77 bottles of mustard? In a year? In a lifetime? I don't care how much you like the stuff (and I do like mustard) but 77 bottles? Coupons come out for mustard ALL THE TIME. It's not like it is a deal that is going to go away and never come back. On top of that? She still paid $.39 for mustard. Ha ha ha bitch - I've gotten mustard for free. *pats self on back*

Then we got to go into some of these crazy bitches houses. Who in their right effing mind has toilet paper stored under their kids beds? Are you serious? I mean...believe me there is stuff crammed under the oldest bed and well...under the crib. but it's stuff that belongs to them (i.e. clothes for the next season, toys) but it's not TOILET PAPER. If you have enough toilet paper to last you and your family 3 years? ENOUGH Stop it. If you have a shelf full of food in your bedroom? that's a problem. If your closet is holding half clothes, half cereal? I think you don't need to shop this week.

Let's talk about the check out lines. What cashier would let you do 18 separate orders if you were not on TV? I admit it - I have done 2 or maybe 3 (when Target gives their $5 gift cards I'll do those items first and use the gift card on my other stuff) but 18? She was checking out for over 1 hour. She's a bitch. That's just mean.

I get agitated when a cashier gives you the eye roll about coupons or whatever. I do I admit it. I don't think it's that tricky to ring in my coupons. And the other night I held up the line at walmart for a $1.00 coupon. But their scanner was wrong and I bought the items and I ended up getting the $1.00. I was embarrassed to do it but I did it.

I would not EVER attempt to do 18 orders. To be in line for an hour. To monopolize the cashiers time like that. That's insane, rude, and a whole bunch of other crazy.

And, can I ask you this...what store would take 77 coupons that are identical? I'm pretty sure that my store locally will only do 4 of a like coupon. Maybe I'm wrong and you can do this crazy shit at other stores, but 77? no. That's INSANE.

No wonder I get eye rolls when I say I'm a couponer. Is this what America thinks we all do?

I have to say I have a stock pile. I do. Right now I have an abundance of cereal. I bought each box for $1 or less. But I'm not going to buy cereal for a LONG LONG time. I have passed several deals up cause I don't need it.

These women have issues. Big ones.

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Bitchy Friend

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I have been accused as being a bitch. Including in friendships. I have a long dramatic history with girl I guess more likely than not I have my guard up.

One of the things that I have been accused of is if a friend makes a mistake I'm out. Some of that is completely true. If a "friend" gossips about me, tells people I'm horrible, argues with me for the sake of arguing...I'm out.

My idea is that if you're not bringing something meaningful to my life...then why do I need you?

Some people I can see coming from a mile away, and I can be a friendly acquaintance, but I'll probably never be a friend.

Some people slip under my radar. And what is the saying? Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice Shame on me! I don't necessarily live by that saying, but it's a good saying. They invented it for a reason. I don't see any reason as an almost 35 year old mother, wife and woman to keep people close and in my life for dramatic reasons.

Now, if I've known you forever? I'll probably always know you forever. We may not be bff, but we'll always keep in touch some how.

However, if I am just getting to know you and you start the absolute bull shit? WHY would I invite it into my life? Why would I waste the energy of my friendship? Cause I think that friendships DO take energy. I'm not always great at it to the people who I love why would I waste it on someone who is constantly needing sympathy, money, drama and more?

So if you need to think of me as a bitchy friend, by all means do it. But, on my list of "good points" I have to say that I'm pretty fierce about the people I let into my life (which is one of the reasons I'll cut people off too - I'm the type of person who will take a bullet verbal or real for a true friend...if you're going to cause me nothing but bullets and not bring anything to my life...uhh duh).

My current problem is this. I see a person who I would say is more than an acquaintance, but less than a bff being taken advantage of. AUGH. Honestly if it was someone I truly spent time with (either via phone, skype, or real life) I would probably say something. I could get it into real conversation. But this person and I don't really "talk".

The friend in question is being used (in my humble opinion) and she's such a sweet person that she is blind to it. She is always willing to see the best in people (which I think is wonderful but yet leaves her incredibly vulnerable). And me being the bitchy person that I am, can see through the user a mile away.

Said user has used people in the past. She is a person who never takes responsibility for herself and her actions. Whether she is using people for sympathy (don't get me wrong - everyone needs sympathy SOME days...but I have limits when you refuse to change your life) or whether she is using them for money - I have issues with her. I'm pretty sure I'm not the only one who does...but AUGH.

So I can't just email or text or call and say said person is using you stop letting her. It would be weird and awkward and since I have a high standard for my friends, the blame of bitchiness would get thrown at me and the person would continue to get used.

I don't know what to do to stop it. I don't even know if it's my place to stop it. I just know that I feel like somethings wrong and I can't control it (something I hate).

Any suggestions?

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

More Shopping

Sweet chicken - I am apparently on a roll. I can't stop shopping.

We leave for Michigan soon. We are having a family portrait done. I need something to wear. I have lost enough weight for my shirts to not look great (I mean why do I want to look heavier than I am at this point?) and honestly - I don't buy a lot of dress clothes at this point in my life. I'm basically in my mom uniform most days (some sort of comfy pants and shirt) or I'm in a work uniform of khaki's and a polo. So I want a new shirt. I can dig up some sort of black pants but I NEED a new shirt.

So...when we went to the mall I looked. Nothing.

I live in an area without much shopping close by but we do have a Fashion Bug. I thought Oh I can go there! ummm....has anyone been in a Fashion Bug lately? I wanted to shoot myself. I am not a small girl so I'm still on the big girl side of the store. I do not need to look like a Grandma. I also do not need to wear a sleeveless shirt. Seriously who wants to see these arms up close and personal? no one.

There were bedazzled shirts in there - I swear there was. All I need is a plain type of colorful shirt. NOPE. It was more than frustrating.

So, I am still shirtless.

Then I made the big trip to Walmart. (This trip is all sans kids since I left after I put them to bed).

I know a lot of people have strong opinions about Walmart. I am not one of them. I do not make enough money to not like Walmart. I also don't live in an area where I have a choice. There is a K-Mart and a Walmart. umm....I'll take Walmart anyday. K-mart is randomly expensive and never has exactly what I'm looking for.

I know I know...People think that Walmart is horrible to their employees. I would like you to show me a major retail chain that is NOT horrible to their employees. I have worked (although briefly) at JC Penney's and at Meijers. Neither one was what I would call motivating to employees.

And I know that Walmart drives a lot of small businesses out of town. I get that. That is the one thing that I don't like about Walmart. I've said - I'm not a rich woman. And honestly, if a small local store had great customer service and had things that I needed, I would more than likely buy some items there still. But honestly? I haven't noticed that having a Walmart has changed my shopping that much. I now can just find crap I need locally instead of having to drive 1 hour.

Here is how desperate I am. I even looked for a nice shirt at Walmart. No dice.

I don't know if I have time to order something or not and I'm starting to panic. I hate it that this is going to be a picture to last a LONG time and I have nothing to wear. It's so sad:(

It makes me pissed off actually.

I know I need to lose weight. But I should still be able to buy something nice that isn't jammy like and isn't bedazzled. Why is it so hard to find something decent that isn't horribly ugly?

Banging my head on the wall seems like the right answer at this point.

Any tips? Suggestions?

Monday, April 4, 2011

The Mall

The mall. I admit that I had my mall days. I thought that going to the mall every single week-end was the ultimate of coolness! I really did!

I grew up in the John Hughes Midwest. My husband died laughing when I took him to my parents house for the first time. He said he thought that Molly would come bouncing out of a house at any moment.

I spent years devoted to stores like Claires, The Closet (anyone else remember that store?), The Limited, I.D., and Express. I roamed the mall hoping to find something new and something cheap on my limited babysitting budget. I would always get a Mountain Dew somewhere. Cruise around looking for boys. It was a junior high schooler's heaven.

Flash forward 20 years. I am an internet shopper. I order almost all of my clothes, almost all of the boys clothes. Our UPS guy knows me. When our dog was still alive, he brought bones for the doggie cause he knew our house. We currently live about an hour away from the closest mall, and I thought that was my reason for so much internet shopping.

No. That is not why.

I and the three boys and the husband went to the mall on Saturday. Heaven help me. It was horrible.

Oldest son has decided to have a huge growth spurt and has been sporting high waters for a while now. It's shameful. So...he needed some new clothes. Given the fact that he's a string bean...I wanted him to try some pants on. We thought "Oh we'll go to the mall".

We drove up to Philly to look at furniture at Ikea (LOVE) and then hit a mall maybe too close to Philly on our way home.

There were almost no parking spaces (first sign I should have left and gone home). We get in and there are people everywhere. I mean Sears was busy for pete's sake.

I go into Children's Place. Sweet chicken. Women everywhere. Kids running around like wild indians. Tried pants on the big one. Went to get in line. Thankfully husband took kids out of the tiny store.

childrens place Pictures, Images and Photos

A woman in front of me was disappointed that she couldn't double coupons and children's place cash (or whatever it is called) and she is yelling at the store associates. Because it must be them who is setting the store policy's. A woman cuts in line and (this did make me mad) the sales person helped her and let her check out (we were in line for like 15-20 minutes).

I do not need to venture to the mall anytime soon. People are crazy. There were 5 in our party. 1 double stroller, 3 walking. I got cut off by people, people who would push us out of their way to get in front of us (you know you have to hurry to get to the sales).

This girl is warming up the computer...apparently people like me should ONLY internet shop

Friday, April 1, 2011

It's April Fools day

This holiday is somewhat ridiculous isn't it? The only good thing about April Fools Day is that it is a "big" deal so I get reminded that it's my dad's birthday and that I should call him. So thanks crazy stupid holiday for reminding me to call my dad today.

Now...I am a big facebook person. Since starting to stay at home during the day with my boys, my only real interaction with adults during the day is facebook. Yes, a remarkably sad fact...but still a fact;) But now with April Fools Day I have to decipher every single post to see if I'm being punked. I do not have the brain power for that today I decided.

I remember in Grade School ALWAYS falling for the jokes. I fall for just about anything cause apparently I'm slow like that.

Apparently this so called holiday has been happening since the 1500's or earlier? Apparently they screwed everyone up and moved the new year from April 1 to January one...odd thing to do. Click here for a better explanation than I am ever going to give you. I guess even Chaucer liked the day? Since he referenced it in one of his books (keep meaning to pick up Chaucer, but...)

If you like this day a little more than I do, Huffington Post has the top 5 pranks (in their opinion) listed. One of them involves pranking Limbaugh (which I am always interested in). To me the best one is the one from England. basically the BBC announced that Swiss Farmers had a to big crop of Spaghetti...from Spaghetti trees. Apparently people (I would have too) called in wanting to know where they could get their own spaghetti trees...sweet chicken.

so Meh. This bitchy gullible girl says NO to pranking people on April Fools, but apparently I am in the minority on this.

Anyone have a good prank?